Your best friend‘s wedding is a big deal, and you generally shouldn’t miss it unless you have a very good excuse. Yet, one woman is considering bowing out of her Maid of Honor duties and skipping her bestie’s big day altogether. “Why?” you ask. Well, because her boyfriend of 2 years has had a sudden flare-up of insecurity.
Instead of sharing in her excitement, her BF has asked her not to go to the “romantic event.” His issue lies with the fact that an ex of hers is the best man and he isn’t cool with them being paired up for the wedding. The woman says she really wants to be there for her friend but she understands where her boyfriend is coming from.
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Now, she might not even attend the wedding after her BF found out who the best man is
People had lots of questions and the woman had to clarify
Netizens advised the woman not to miss her bestie’s wedding and some even suggested breaking up
Everything went downhill after she stood her ground and told her BF she’d be attending the wedding
Here’s why some are more prone to the green-eyed monster than others…
Jealousy is a normal emotion that many, if not most, of us have felt at some point in our lives.
Experts define it as a reaction that arises when we perceive a threat to something we value. This could be a partner, a job, a friend, an inanimate object… anything that we cherish or don’t want to lose.
One study found that 79% of men and 66% of women who sought relationship counseling defined themselves as jealous.
“In a healthy relationship, between two healthy people, these feelings can be expressed and processed fairly quickly and easily,” says Katie Schubert, a couples therapist and CEO of Cypress Wellness Center. “If feelings of jealousy linger and/or worsen, or if it feels like it would be unsafe to bring up your feelings to your partner, these feelings can really damage a relationship.”
Jealousy is rooted in insecurity and fear and when not kept in check, can be harmful to the person experiencing it, and those around them. It can cause trust (or mistrust) issues, resentment, conflict and completely destroy relationships. From a mental health perspective, jealousy can lead to stress, anxiety, and even depression as feelings of inadequacy and insecurity eat away at someone’s emotional well-being.
“People with low self-esteem are more prone to jealousy because they feel unworthy or undeserving. They may struggle with self-doubt, leading them to believe that others have more value or importance,” notes the TherapyRoute site. “This mindset creates a fertile ground for jealousy to thrive, as individuals constantly feel they are “not good enough.”
TherapyRoute’s experts add that previous life experiences can shape how someone experiences, or deals with, jealousy. For example, if they’ve been cheated on or abandoned in the past, they may be on high alert for something like this happening again.
“Unresolved wounds from childhood or past relationships can make it challenging to trust others fully, intensifying feelings of jealousy,” explains the site.
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